Effective communication is a crucial aspect of any healthy relationship, whether it be a romantic partnership, a friendship, or a professional collaboration. When we are able to clearly express our desires, we are able to establish boundaries, build trust, and create a deeper understanding with the people around us.
However, for many of us, communicating our desires can be a difficult task. We may feel uncomfortable speaking up for ourselves, or fear that our needs will be rejected or unfulfilled. But when we don’t express our desires and lack effective communication in a relationship, it can lead to a number of negative outcomes. Firstly, it can lead to resentment and frustration, as we may feel that our needs are not being met or that we are not being heard. This can create distance and tension in the relationship. A lack of communication can cause misunderstandings and miscommunications, which can lead to conflicts and difficulties in resolving problems. This can lead to a breakdown in trust and a feeling of disconnection between the individuals involved.
It’s important to remember that open and honest communication is essential for a healthy and fulfilling relationship, and that expressing our desires is an important part of that.
So… How can we become better at communicating our desires? Here are a few tips:
- Practice being assertive: Assertiveness means standing up for yourself and expressing your thoughts and feelings in a direct and respectful way. It’s important to remember that it’s okay to have needs and wants, and it’s important to communicate them to the people around us. You are not a bad person for standing up for yourself.
- Use “I” statements: When communicating your desires, try to focus on expressing how you feel rather than blaming the other person. For example, instead of saying “You never listen to me,” try “I feel frustrated when I feel like my words aren’t being heard.” You want the person you are chatting with to be open and involved in the conversation, not feel pressured and blamed.
- Make it a habit: The more we practice expressing our desires, the easier it becomes. Try to make it a habit to communicate your needs and wants on a regular basis, even if it’s just in small ways. It might sound silly, but something as small as saying, “No. I don’t want to eat there.” instead of, “Wherever you want to eat is fine.” sets the stage for larger conversations down the road.
- Choose the right time and place: It’s important to consider the timing and setting when communicating your desires. Choose a time when both parties are able to have a calm and focused conversation, and consider the location – is it a place where you can both feel comfortable and undisturbed?
- Be open to compromise: It’s important to remember that not all of our desires can be met all of the time. When discussing your desires, be open to finding a middle ground or coming up with a solution that works for both parties. This can help to build trust and understanding in the relationship. No one can be right 100% of the time, so it should be understood that no person can have their desires met 100% of the time.
Effective communication is a skill that takes time and effort to develop, but it is a crucial aspect of any healthy relationship. By learning to communicate our desires clearly and openly, we can foster stronger, more authentic connections with the people in our lives.
Speak up, Babe! Don’t spend another moment floundering around waiting for someone to read your mind.
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January 25, 2023