When you think about self-care, what’s the first thing that comes to mind?
Let me guess, it’s probably face masks, spa days, or lazy days in bed watching your favorite movie, right?
Don’t get me wrong, those are definitely acts of self-care, but did you know that self-care also involves setting boundaries, healing your inner child, and and showing up for yourself? That’s the beauty of self-care, it’s an incredibly vast spectrum that varies from person to person!
But in this spectrum, I want to highlight the beauty of saying “no” to set boundaries that protect our own peace and wellbeing. Because by setting boundaries, we are letting people know that we do not tolerate behavior that negatively impact us. It’s easier said than done, I know. It can be hard especially if you’re the people-pleaser type, so here are a few tips to set boundaries:
Ask yourself what instances triggers discomfort or stress.
To identify this, reflect on your personal needs, values, and limits. This self-awareness is the foundation for setting effective boundaries.
Communicate, communicate, communicate!
Remember that people are not mind-readers, so you need to do your part and be clear and assertive in your communication. Use “I” statements to express your needs and feelings without blaming or criticizing others.
Use consequences when your boundary isn’t respected
For example, “I don’t like it when you make comments about my body” VS “If you continue to make comments about my body, I will leave the dinner”
Begin by setting small, manageable boundaries as baby steps and gradually build up to more significant ones. Remember, saying no to others often means saying yes to yourself.
November 7, 2024
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